Women Are From Venus

By Rhonda Eve

"Everything is going to be okay" is all we want to hear. A loving caress a gentle touch, a warm I love you. Not turning it into "all about you" then sex.

What pretty much sums it up is "shush up and listen." Women need a different kind of stimulus. Yes, we need sexual interacting, but a warm touch....securing our love really helps!

Having your baby is the a permanent bond. Having a listening ear will help secure your emotional bond and ease her thoughts.

Then, when it's time to get down to business, well then that's the time.

 

Comments

[Jessica V]

I know the feeling... I wish I had an answer.

I think we just need to communicate better... which is hard. I feel like I'm running around after my 17 month old son all day everyday, entertaining when needed, in addition to household chores. That alone is exhausting, I love spending so much time with my son, but seriously, it can all be so exhausting.

My husband is looking for work in an industry where there is no work now, so he is tired and stressed at the end of the day as well, it seems selfish to say "hey, listen to my problems and rub my lower back please!" He can't read my mind, so sometimes that's just what I have to do.

I also send him little messages that let him know I am still attracted to him - a tush squeeze, a text, a note, whatever, not even always sexual, just encouraging, loving and supportive. So far that seems to work, so he feels like a stud even when he gets shot down because I'm too tired.

Luckily for me he is great with the "I love yous" - has always been very vocal in his feelings.

[Sophie]

Our 3 1/2 month old, Kai, is teething. We're both exhausted. This morning I felt like nothing would make me feel better, and then I climbed onto my husbands lap while he was working on his laptop and he moved everything aside (even though he has a huge deadline) and held me in his arms and told me how much he loves me and that I'm his baby. it was SO sweet. it made my whole body relax and feel better! I'm not good at expressing my needs... I always want to please everyone, especially those I love. It just shows that it's really not that hard, especially with practice. Today proved that I can act on my needs/wants and it really isn't that scary! :)

[Rae]

We can have it all and some of us are lucky to actually have it. If you don't, then don't be afraid to ask for it. Remember, no one can read your mind, not even your life partner. That said, unless you express exactly what it is you want, how do you expect to get it. If you go to a restaurant and there's a dish you really want that has mushrooms in it and you hate mushrooms, would you be afraid to ask for it without mushrooms? So, why do we not speak up in our relationships? I'm sure that your partner loves you madly enough to move heaven and earth for you. You just have to ask :) Wouldn't you do the same for them?